Want to fit in better, understand your “why” first
It doesn’t matter how funny you are.
It doesn’t matter what school you attended.
It doesn’t matter where you make your money, buy your clothes, or eat your food.
All that matters, all that people actually care about, is why you are here.
Fitting in is hard, for me at least. I'm an introvert. I live with a subconscious who tells me to run away from any new situation I find myself in.
Start a cooking blog? Run away, you’re not a top chef.
Go to an entrepreneur meet up? Run away, you’ve never built a business.
Start dating a cute girl? Run away, she probably just feels bad for you.
Maybe you can relate. Think about the time you joined a new gym, or went to a new church, or started a new job. The awkward transition from your old life to a new one is difficult.
You don’t know where you stand among “established” members. You are afraid of being noticed. You are still learning the customs, traditions, and jargon needed to fully acclimate yourself to the new environment.
Trying something new or discovering a new interest leads to an integration period into a new community. It’s never easy, and sometimes this new period is the reason people fail to try new things.
So how do you overcome this fear? How do fit in to a new community? Better yet, how do you find the right community to help you grow as a person?
The answer is simple: understand your why.
Knowing why you are here on earth is fundamental to fitting into community.
Sure, you can try to fit into a community founded on shared interests, but these tend to be superficial and don’t necessarily help you grow as a person.
The reason I’ve been able to launch my own business is not because I decided to hang out with other entrepreneurs, it’s because I surrounded myself with people who are passionate about creating the life they want.
I avoid sleazy entrepreneurs looking to make a quick buck. Instead, I seek out good-hearted people willing to work hard for themselves and their families.
In doing so, I’ve built a network of people I can rely on to provide mentorship, feedback, and motivation. All because I knew my why.
You may come across people with different interests and different ventures than yourself. Actually, I’m positive this happens to you on a daily basis. However, taking the extra step to understanding why they do what they do may lead to an important relationship in your life.
The more you are able to understand your why and connect with people with similar whys, the easier it’ll be to fit into a community where you can thrive.
And once you find one, two, or three people with the same why as you, go set the world on fire.
I’m not going to pretend this concept is an original thought of mine. If you are wondering How do I discover my why? there are plenty of articles and videos to help you.
Here are just a few of my favorite:
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Hello, my name is Declan. I’m a husband, father, writer, and founder of SHRPA.
My mission is to get 1,000 people serious about going after their goals and dreams.
