Want to fit in better, understand your “why” first

It doesn’t matter how funny you are.

It doesn’t matter what school you attended.

It doesn’t matter where you make your money, buy your clothes, or eat your food.

All that matters, all that people actually care about, is why you are here.

Fitting in is hard, for me at least. I'm an introvert. I live with a subconscious who tells me to run away from any new situation I find myself in.

Start a cooking blog? Run away, you’re not a top chef.

Go to an entrepreneur meet up? Run away, you’ve never built a business.

Start dating a cute girl? Run away, she probably just feels bad for you.

Maybe you can relate. Think about the time you joined a new gym, or went to a new church, or started a new job. The awkward transition from your old life to a new one is difficult.

You don’t know where you stand among “established” members. You are afraid of being noticed. You are still learning the customs, traditions, and jargon needed to fully acclimate yourself to the new environment.