I work pretty hard to put out decent content. I have a blog and newsletter I send out weekly. I’m active on Medium. I curate interesting reads for my Twitter followers. I co-host a podcast. Oh, and I recently wrote, published, and promoted a book.
I’m a busy man.
But the above activities only make up 20% of my waking time.
I failed to mention I have a full-time job as a supply chain analyst, I’m married to a woman finishing up pharmacy school, and together we are raising a 13 month old toddler (and two cats but they’re pretty self-sufficient).
So when I hear people saying they don’t have time, I cringe and write a Medium post about it.
We all have 24 hours in a day
Here’s a little secret:
Becoming a parent does take up a lot of your time (I’m not trying to make it seem like I’m a super dad or something).
But becoming a parent also makes you appreciate the little “free” time in your day.
My lunch breaks, my commute to work, my late evenings after chores are done and baby is tucked away in bed, these moments make up the hodgepodge that is my side hustle.
I dare not waste them away in front of the Netflix machine (although I have been known to watch an episode of Peaky Blinders or “binge” watch two episodes of Parks and Rec in a given evening — I am human after all).
We all are bound by the same time (unless of course you’re moving at the speed of light, then relatively speaking, things get a little…relative) and you don’t need to be a parent to appreciate the time that you have.
Make time to go after your dream
Here’s another little secret:
If you are tired of your life’s trajectory, you and only you can change course.
You can’t ask Google what to do.
You can’t order more time on Amazon.
You can’t request an Uber to take you to your dream job.
The only thing you can do? Prioritize your dream.
When you prioritize your dream above everything else, all the superfluous activities of your life give way. When you stop treating your dream as some elusive, fairytale destination, the journey ahead becomes much clearer. Time manifests itself.
Step Up and go after your dream.
What I’ve sacrificed
I’ll be completely honest, all of my personal and side hustle juggling comes at a cost. I’ve had to give up and cut back on a lot of things, things I would much rather be doing such as:
- Intimacy with my wife
- Praying more
- Reading an actual book
- Going out with friends
- Binge watching Netflix (more than 2 episodes)
- Watching an entire movie from start to finish
Chasing after your dream isn’t cheap. Sacrifices are required. And the payoff never seems to come.
Here’s another little secret:
No matter how productive I am during the day, I still feel like I haven’t done enough.
That feeling sucks.
Even after the positive feedback from my readers and the reassurance from my wife, all the hard work I put in still doesn’t warrant a warm and fuzzy feeling that I’m making something of my life.
However, recently I’ve stopped worrying about the end result. I’m focused on my unique journey, on my next step, on “being” instead of “being better.”
The real struggle isn’t having enough time to chase your dream, the real struggle is wondering if you are using your time wisely.
We all have 24 hours in a day, as long as your are Stepping Forward you’re moving in the right direction.
I wrote a book recently called The Millennial Way: Step Up, Step Out, Step Forward. My friend Todd is giving away 5 free copies:
Stop seeking Validation. Start Taking Action — Q&A with Declan Wilson (+ Book Giveaway)
(I’m giving away 5 copies of Declan’s book. To enter for your chance to win, share this article on Twitter)
You can also check out our conversation about the book (it ended up inspiring this post):